Lucky Mom

May. 21, 2008

BEYOND PICKY

What kid doesn’t like juice? What kid doesn’t like grapes? PB&J? Not any longer.

I need help – desperately. I think I need a Dr. Mom (or Dad) who can help me with a…uh…problem.

I’ve done my research on-line, taken my child to the doctor for advice, experimented to the best of my ability and now must reach out to you for the anecdotal, non-traditional, unconventional, weird, scary, CPS calling ideas - anything that might help.

My 19 month old snarky attitude sporting tomboy bruiser sweet toddler girl is causing me to lose my patience presenting me with eating/drinking challenges that are now resulting in her:

  1. Constipation
  2. Possible dehydration
  3. Possible nutrition deprivation
  4. Mommy going nuts

This hit me from left field as my son Alec will eat everything from cardboard to Filet Mignon and everything in between including most vegetables, whole grain everything and pretty much anything healthy.

Here is what my daughter will order eat/drink:

  1. Water
  2. Oatmeal
  3. Bananas – a lot. Which you may know, causes constipation
  4. Wheat Thins
  5. Occasional yoghurt and cottage cheese
  6. Mac & Cheese
  7. An occasional pea
  8. SH*T a.k.a Junk which I refuse to give into.

Period.

I can’t get her to take any type of medication or laxative as she will taste it. I can’t even try and hide anything in her food as she expels it immediately.

I’ve tried to act nonchalant after stashing veggies, meds, juice, anything healthy into her food (since she’s on to me if I try too hard to get her to eat/drink) – no go.

Therefore, she has become quite constipated which then causes her to decline all food and drink which causes her to appear dehydrated (you do remember my unusual fear of dehydration? And its 160 degrees in Austin right now so I think my fear level is valid) which, per the doctor today can increase her chances of getting a repeat urinary tract infection.

So, you can see my dilemma right?

I need some advice; I need some ludicrous sounding advice actually.

You know, the kind that would probably work? The usual stuff isn’t working.

14 Comments Posted (Add Yours)

1

Well, I know I shouldn't compare my dog and his bad habits, (or should I say, my bad habits), to your adorable little bruiser/angel but here you go. I was recetly a bad puppy mamma by feeding Ace too many goodies, aka, food I was eating. It only took a short time for him to start refusing to eat his own food in the hopes that I, (a self-confessed sucker for those puppy eyes), would give in and give him the goodies. After missing a few meals, but keeping plenty of water available, he got the hint. Now, I'm not sure you have the guts or the patience, (or that the kid docs even condone this), to only provide stuff that's good for her but is taht an option? Is she too stubborn to give in or is this one of those battle of the wills that we see on Super Nanny in which the parent wins as long as they stay strong?

You can answer me tomorrow when I see you.

2

Fiber One makes chewy granola bars which are really good and my conspitation-prone and very picky son thinks they're junk which is a side benefit. These are sold in bulk in BJs and other club stores.

Try yogurt-covered raisins as a snack. Helps with constipation and also, perceived as junk.

Try making her a fruit shake. Kids LOVE these and have no idea that they're good for them. I mix frozen berries of any kind, milk, a banana, and some yogurt (Stonyfield makes a Banilla -- banana/vanilla which rocks). You can even add Miralax or something similar and she will be clueless.

Hope this helps!!

3

Does she like Jamba Juice? Not a cheap way to go, but surely adds the fiber needed to make the body do its thing. When Jackson was refusing to poop during potty training, I gave him applesauce every day (which he hadn't had before) doped up with prune juice. Doesn't Dr. Pepper have prune juice in it?
What eventually worked on the potty was bribery, candy for poop. Will she eat something you want in order to get candy? In tough times, you gotta be committed to win!

4

I love the ideas from Christine!!! Well my now almost 14 year old - once went 9 DAYS without pooping at age 2. I thought I would die and I think he did too. Toddlers tend to have these problems... to get him to drink pure prune juice (don't laugh) I put it in a pretty wine glass and sat carefully with him while he would take a sip and then giggle. There was nothing in it but prune juice (I promise), but the fancy glass was fun for him....This worked for several weeks. When he got board -- we did move on to the all natural childrens sencot. It sort of tastes like chocolate. Not sure why he took it?? - But it got things moving. Doctors always say a child won't starve themselves. They intuitively know what their bodies need. If it's that hot in Austin she's probably loosing her appetite. Try pop-cycles for liquids. There are "good for you" ones out there. I think my (now almost 11 year old) lived on popcycles of every type when she was 2. You can win... Just out-wit and out-last her!! Go get em MOM (KO-W)!!

5

I love the ideas from Christine!!! Well my now almost 14 year old - once went 9 DAYS without pooping at age 2. I thought I would die and I think he did too. Toddlers tend to have these problems... to get him to drink pure prune juice (don't laugh) I put it in a pretty wine glass and sat carefully with him while he would take a sip and then giggle. There was nothing in it but prune juice (I promise), but the fancy glass was fun for him....This worked for several weeks. When he got board -- we did move on to the all natural childrens sencot. It sort of tastes like chocolate. Not sure why he took it?? - But it got things moving. Doctors always say a child won't starve themselves. They intuitively know what their bodies need. If it's that hot in Austin she's probably loosing her appetite. Try pop-cycles for liquids. There are "good for you" ones out there. I think my (now almost 11 year old) lived on popcycles of every type when she was 2. You can win... Just out-wit and out-last her!! Go get em MOM (KO-W)!!

6

I would agree with Wendy - try the pedialyte popsicles or something like that. Unfortunately, none of my 3 children really like them. Ugh! We do lots of raisins and dried apricots and dried cherries. If she likes the taste of oatmeal, we also buy these dates rolled in oat flour from Ballard Market. (they look like rabbit turds, but the kids love em...)

Our kids will also eat anything dipped in yellow mustard or pesto, go figure.

Oh, the small boxes of raisins are always a hit because they are like a little treat to open and eat.

Good luck!

7

Thanks for the ideas everyone!

Though I can't for the life of me understand why she won't drink juice (or fruit shakes or anything else that tastes sweet and yummy), I have been able to disolve the Miralax into her water without her noticing or tasting.

Wendy H. I so like your wine glass idea for whatever you put in it. Just to see a wine glass makes me happy. he.

8

Wow, Kristine, I wish I had known all these tricks/unusual food ideas when Ken was little. When he was little (1-2 yrs old), all he ate was cottage cheese and applesauce. Nothing green. Growing up, his favorite vegetable was french fries! When he was 19, at Thanksgiving, all he had on his plate was mashed potatoes, white turkey, white roll. Then, miracle of miracles, he became a sort of chef and now he eats (and cooks) all sorts of delicious and healthy foods. Somehow, it all works out. But the agony of getting through it! I think all this sort of prepares you for the teenage years when, hopefully, you won't pull all your hair out!!!!
Do hope your sicknesses are all over now - that sounded like a real bummer. Hope the rest of the year is super pleasant!

9

I agree with post #1. Don't give in to her becasue if you think she's a handful now - just wait. She's got you right where she wants you. Remember - you are the Mom! Don't give in or you will raise a terrible brat that will only be happy while she's getting her way and will make everyone else around her miserable.
Bottom line - Don't try gimmicks to get her to do what you want. Put your foot down and tell her that if she's hungry, she can help herself to whatever she wants it's just up to you to not have the junk food in the house. When she's hungry she'll eat, when she's thirsty, she'll drink! Good luck. -Mom of 2 well-adjusted kids who will at least try something before they say they don't like it.

10

You are right. We have to implement good food habits from childhood itself to be a healthy person in future.

11

Yes, Me too have to follow these to my daughter. She is just 3 years old. I think we have to add more spinach as well as fruits in her food too.

12

That is good, But If you can add some egg in her food daily, that will be fine. Because, egg contains protein and other minerals too.

13

Don't you add chicken soup in her meals. I think, it is better to include it one or two times per week. That help a lot to get strong bones.

14

thats true add chicken stock to any liquid she takes in

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