Lucky Mom

Mar. 22, 2006

Breastfeeding is 'gross'?

Breastfeeding – well, this is always a hot topic to debate; however, I have what I feel is an interesting story to tell and would love some of your comments and thoughts! I'm still taken aback from the following:

I live near a well-known naturopathic university just outside of Seattle. Now, I thought for sure this would be one place where students and faculty alike are into nature, natural living, trees, organic food and the like. Interestingly, as I have a few friends who attend this school, I’ve found out that some students are ‘grossed out’ by breastfeeding.

Huh? Grossed out?

Apparently there are a significant amount of rather new moms who live on campus with their new babies and of course need to feed them. Quite a few of the students are not comfortable with this I’m told by one of my friends who attends the school.

The "grossed out" students see a mom sitting on a bench feeding their infants and complain to others about how 'sick and gross' it is. Maybe this isn’t such an odd response at Tiffany’s in NYC or a five star restaurant, but at a naturopathic school in grunge-happy Seattle? I’m amazed. You?

106 Comments Posted (Add Yours)

1

I'm with you, unbelievable! I remember seeing a Dr. Phill (ok, so I watch, shoot me! but rarely, really) show with the breastfeeders vs. the bottle feeders, and one woman actually said it was so UNATURAL to breastfeed!!!!
What? I wonder what her definition of natural is? It is very sad that it ever was "not in" to breastfeed, that boiling bottles and formula became the norm, and "natural". what big business and the advertising machine can do? amazing. How do they think babies survived way back before bottles and formula? the mentality of these people is shocking. I do understand people being uncomfortable, since our society only sees breasts as sex objects, and I agree mothers should show respect for others, however ignorant they are, and be descreet if neccessary. I recently had to give up breastfeeding my son, and it was very sad for me, but there are benefits to bottles too, i have found, being able to constantly smooch on my guy while he is feeding, and of course that Daddy can help out a lot more.

2

Have to admit, that does seem a bit strange. Back when I was breastfeeding, (yes Kristine, we had bottles back then but I chose to breastfeed anyway), that was a much more common view point. Well, maybe not that it was gross necessariy, but that women shouldn't breastfeed in public places, even though it was done discreetly with no exposed body parts. I assumed that we now lived in a much more open and accepting society. But as you said, there are many different opinions regarding this issue and I'm sure different reasons for those opinions. Would be interesting to hear a few more.

3

This is definitely a topic of debate - I really don't think it should be. Breastfeeding is natural - but I'm not sure I want to see someone whip out their boob and have it all there for everyone to see - I personally would feel a bit uncomfortable - being the mom with the boob out... so to speak - nevermind those around me. Use a blanket or something else. No biggie. It's natural - be considerate.

When it comes to bottle feeding - nothing wrong with that either. I don't like it when people get bashed for it because they don't do it the "natural" way. Some women try... and can't then take on more crap from other women who say it's "un-natural".

You just can't win. It's too bad society isn't a bit more understanding - either way you decide to feed your child.

4

Empress - Good point. It really shouldn't be a debate though it so frequently is. I don't agree with any type of mom bashing for personal decisions they make for themselves and their children.

5

I feel society as a whole has become so unexcepting of breastfeeding mothers. It seems to be okay to see celebraties breast on tv, magazines, etc. but when a mom exposes her breast in order to nourish her child it is immodest. You have got to be kidding me! If I have to put up with constantly seeing women's breasts being exploited as sex symbols, then unapproving eyes can deal with the fact that I'm trying to do what I think is best for my child.
As you can tell I get quite upset with our immodest society trying to use modesty to shame society. Bellybuttons, booties, and boobs are on billboards, television, books, movies, and magazines exposing young children to the idea that it is okay to exploit our bodies but to instill a sense of motherhood in them by breastfeeding in public is frowned upon. How sad.

6

I could rant for hours on this! But don't worry I won't. I would like to get my hands on those students though. Just wait until they have children of their own, I bet they will change their opinions then!

7

Newmommie - The hypocrisy of it is amazingly sad and Lisa - I bet you are correct.

8

Empress, I would have to agree with your comments. I think it's a choice made my each mother. One that she shouldn't be judged either way for her decision. I too feel it is a sad debate but one that should be respected. I also agree with Lisa, just wait kiddies until your day comes and people judge you for your decisions! Both of my children were bottle fed babies, great sleepers and really healthy. I have friends who have had the exact opposite and breast fed. I also have friends who breast fed and their children responded the same as mine. Who is to judge? It was my choice and my choice only. Should I even mention "Natural Labor" vs. "ephidural", there is a topic that my sister and I can go rounds on! I took the drugs baby, I guess you can guess what she chose! Talk about controversy! Here we go!

Anyway...to each his own right????

9

It's not "sick" or "gross" (or unnatural), but it's just rude to do it in public. Be discreet, use common sense and common courtesy, and don't do it in public, unless there's no other option. I'm expressing this opinion because of the breastfeeder sitting right next to me at the last Super Bowl party I attended. She made no attempt to go into one of the bedrooms or be discreet in any way at all. It was just RIGHT THERE on the couch, a few inches away from me (a perfect stranger), in front of dozens of friends and strangers, on 3rd down during the biggest football game and biggest party of the year!

10

Fred - Hmmm...that's a tough one. What if there was no TV in the bedroom and since it WAS third down, what if at that exact moment her child was starving and mom didn't want to miss the play either? I do agree it's polite to be discreet in public if possible! Thanks for the comment from a man's point of view!
ps. What about Janet Jackson's wardrobe malfunction? Rude or just cool? : )

11

This is really interesting. Amazing, actually, that breastfeeding is such a topic of debate. I would have to put that in the head shaking "what's the matter with people?" category. At what point in our warped society did feeding your baby become "gross?"

12

Did anyone see Desperate Housewives? I think it is WAY gross when your child is old enough to walk!!

13

Teena - yes I saw it. Did you see the British e-mail clip I sent you? What was he say 25 or so?

14

I don't know if "gross" is to harsh a word, but I definately see no reason to why I must watch women breastfeed their infants when I'm sitting at a cafe or a restaurant, or even on the bus or in the street.

Some comments here suggest that people will change their mind once they get children of their own, don't you think this could be true the other way around too? You love your kids, you think they smell wonderful and their "talking" is cute. And you're damn right to do so!

I, on the other hand, think your kids smell, scream incoherently and disturb my general peace of mind. Sure, all you people with babies think breastfeeding is a natural and wonderful thing, but I don't have babies, and I don't want to see you breastfeeding your babies, ever, anywhere.

And, please, don't give me the "maybe the baby is hungry RIGHT NOW" argument - I am diabetic, but since people in general feel uncomfortable with someone "shooting up" on the bus, I take my shots when there's nobody around. I'll die if I don't take my shots, but I still don't do it in front of people. It's called common curtesy and respect.

Thank you.

15

Anonymous - Good comments to think about. Your comment of 'common courtesy and respect' is what I consider the real issue.

Maybe its not that 'breastfeeding is gross' to people they just don't want to see it as it makes them uncomfortable, (fairly or not, 'right' or 'wrong') for whatever reason.

I personally don't mind seeing it (and never have actually) but oddly I didn't do it in public (with the exception of the Nordstrom or Babies R Us lounge area) as I was afraid of making people uncomfortable (and I was embarrased to tell people that!)

I think that courtesy is key.

Thanks for your thoughts!

16

as far as the baby "being hungry right now" if we dont' breastfeed, then they'll cry bloody murder. YOU DECIDE! would you rather sit beside me while i quietly nurse my child, or sit beside me while he screams in your ear (and everyonelsesfor miles) for the rest of the trip? hmmmmm? i think your tune would change pretty quickly.
but, i agree it should be done discreetly, there is no reason for a woman to just wip it out (not that i care personally) from shawls, to blankets, ponchos, to slings, nursing tops that cover you up while nursing. we need to nurse our child, not expose ourselves, that can be avoided.

17

I'd rather sit beside you quietly breastfeeding your infant than hear him or her screaming.

18

I liked the diabetics comment. It made sense. A lot of places have lounges for mothers. On the other hand some places don't. I understand that it is important to feed your baby when it is hungry, that's great, but please cover up. It's okay to cover yourself while breastfeeding. I always feel bad for my husband when we see someone who is nursing uncovered. He doesn't need to see that. We as women do not need to add to the already over exposed world we live in.
Thank you!

19

Well, I'd rather someone breastfeed their child then let it scream, but to say breastfeeding is 'quiet' isn't really accurate either. When my friend breastfeeds her son it's a real grunt fest. He makes a lot of noise and also slurps very loudly. I'm sure you can understand that for people not accusomted to this it's a bit unnerving.

20

I am a breastfeeding mother and I breastfeed in public when necessary. I usually am not out long enough to have to feed by baby because I usually feed him before we go out to alleviate the hassel of having to do it when I'm out period. I always make sure that I have a blanket over myself and my son and if my son is moving around a ton and being difficult, my husband stands in front of me with a blanket until I can get him properly latched on. I believe in being discreet about it, but I'm certainly not embarrassed about it nor am I going to lock myself in a room by myself or feed my baby in a bathroom.

21

I certainly have never been grossed out by breastfeeding. I've had friends do it in front of me and it's just kinda, yep, there's her boob. No problem.

However, I plan on not breastfeeding our baby simply because the ACT of breastfeeding -- me doing it to a baby -- grosses me out to no end. I'll pump the milk and feed the baby that but I am certainly not going to stick my boob in its mouth. It's personal preference. I know it wouldn't feel good. And I want the baby to bond with me and its father equally.

22

Jess - thanks for your comment. The most important thing is getting the breastmilk into your baby, not necessarily the manner in which you do it.

I actually pump alot more than I nurse as well (though I feel nursing is completely natural.)

I applaud those who feel it's important to feed their babies the healthiest though not always the easiest.

23

OMFG! I'm so sick of you slutty, immodestly clad females who have to show your disguisting breasts everywhere in public! You want to breast feed your stupid kid, don't do it out in public for christ sake. It's bad enough that you have to keep procreating, like this world isn't already over populated and over polluted. It's also bad enough that fashion has provided you with dental floss to wear, as if though there's a shortage of material or something, or you can't get enough sexual attention by being gawked at. If you don't choose to bottle feed, then at least show some respect for others who are not comfortable with your inappropriate exposure.

24

Anonymous - I wouldn't normally comment in a situation like this (in fact, I would probably delete your comment under normal circumstances) but I think I will.

Slutty for breastfeeding? Hmm..

Dental floss to wear? Not sure how this is related to breastfeeding a baby.

Either someone has drank too much wine and hit the enter key or someone is apparently a bit bitter toward women (straight women?) and parents in general.

Let me guess: a single (or divorced), pissed off, something who needs to vent about a mother feeding her child the way nature intended. Hmmmm. not much credibility I must admit.

Thanks for your comment though.

25

Excuse me? Who are you calling "a something"? For your information, I am just as much a person as you are. And why am I being criticized for standing up for how I feel and posting my own perspectives?

Again, just because you consider breast feeding something "nature intended" doesn't make it appropriate to do it in public...unless you're the type who lacks in social manners. Nature also intends us to belch or go to the bathroom, but we don't do it in front of others. As I said before, it's bad enough that women like to dress slutty and expose their bodies. We don't need to see them breast feeding too, (not to mention the horrible sucking sounds that comes from it). It's also indecent exposure. Whatever happened to good old-fashioned modesty?

26

Anonymous - How would I know anything about you based solely on the content of your comment? You posted anonymously.

I have to guess.

Thank you again for commenting.

27

Bring A Bottle if you are out in public with your baby

28

Perhaps it is my age,56, or my gender, male,but I find public breast feeding completely repulsive. I am constantly shocked at the matter of fact way todays young mothers feel entitled to use a pulic space for a private matter.It will never be okay to do this. I feel I am with the majority of people regarding this, as I have had no one I know disagree with me. Women may think they are being decreet with a carefully placed baby blanket or special nursing attire...but the fact is we still know what you are doing and it is just plain gross and not the least bit touching.Please stop this highly offensive practice at once!

29

Anonymous - thank you for commenting. I do have to wonder why even covered up feeders are so offensive to you. I'm also curious as to how a mom might take an infant anywhere in public if their baby won't take a bottle. Ideas?

Interesting perspective though.

30

I get so tired of hearing people exaggerate things that happen while breastfeeding. It's generally not so quiet you can hear a pin drop in most public places where one would nurse their baby so the odds of anyone being subjected to 'disgusting slurping, sucking and swallowing' noises is extremely low.

The diabetic sob story...touching but it's not a breastfeeding mothers fault that you choose to risk your life by not taking your insulin when you need it. Don't expect other people to deprive their children though because you made that choice.

...and Mr. 56 year old, in today's society it's just not the same as it was when you were growing up/raising kids. Most homes require that both parents work to make ends meet and even breastfeeding mothers have to go out in public at some point while they are nursing their child. Women aren't feeding their babies because they think you'll think it's a beautiful thing (I honestly doubt they are the least bit concerned with how it affects you) but because their baby is hungry. Some people may think that watching older people with dentures slurp their food up is offensive but they don't ask them to go lock themselves in a room so they don't have to see it.

Some people think it's just as simple as 'bringing a bottle' and pumping some milk beforehand for an outing. It's not. It's possible but babies eat on a schedule. Your breasts produce milk based on that schedule and they continue to produce that milk even when you feed them from that bottle. Missing that nursing session not only engorges your breasts for the rest of the outting, causing them to be fairly painful until you can make it home to relieve some of the pressure, but it also will tell your body that your baby doesn't need that milk you just produced. Then your body produces less milk.

Ask moms to be discrete, sure, but don't expect them to inconvenience themselves and their children because you think it's gross that they breastfeed.

31

Breastfeeding being portrayed as disgusting or gross??? Breastfeeding is a perfectly natural way to feed a child. Why should we breastfeeding moms have to do it only in private? Do you eat in the bathroom or only at home? Come on, we are feeding our babies. I personally, am not comfortable breastfeeding without a cover in public. (That being said, I have been known to do it.) However, if some other mother chooses to I feel it is ok as long as it is tastefully done. As for the sounds our children make while getting their milk...sorry, but it is not as loud as some people portray it to be. Even bottlefed babies have been known to be noisey. How about all those kids out there who chew with thier mouth open or talk with thier mouths full spraying food and spit everywhere in the process? Or how about people who feel it is okay to stick thier tongues down each others throat in public? And even those females (and even males for that matter) who find it necesarry to go out with thier clothes falling off and butt cracks, private hairs, breasts showing for no good reason at all except to attract someone of the opposite sex. Now those examples of rude behaviour is what I find to be gross , disgusting, and even offensive. Especially when I am out with my children and we have to be exposed to it. If our feeding our children bothers you, don't look. That is how I handle situations that I find offensive or gross. Everyone does things that other people don't care for. Can't we all just get along? Breastfed, bottlefed, spoonfed, cupfed...as long as the children get fed, leave the mothers alone and let them do what is best for thier children and family.

32

Sarah and Auree -

Both - well said. Thank you!

Luckymom

33

I'm tired of hearing the "baby is hungry" and "it's a natural thing" excuse. If the stupid thing is screaming in public, then stuff a bottle or pacifier in its face. That's what they're for. If you can't handle your kids and don't know how to wait to breast feed in private, then don't have kids. Wow, such a simple solution! But it is gross and uncomfortable for others to see it, and if you don't want to ruin your reputation as a lady, you will have some consideration for others. Unfortunately, respectable ladies that know better than to expose themselves inappropriately are far and few.

34

I'm tired of hearing ignorant people like anonymous project their sexual dysfunction onto the breastfeeders of the world.

As for farting or burping in public, why wouldnt you? If you can make it to the bathroom, great! If not, who cares, the moment will pass. People are way too uptight. With all the social issues we have in this world, being offended for a minute or two should be the least of our worries.

35

I realize this post is VERY late, but have to chime in. I am mommy to three boys. I also had my children after I was well into my thirties and I also breastfed them all. How dare these "anonymous" folks criticize the nursing mothers but don't have enough guts to publish your names! If you want to be rude, prudish and tactless, fine... but have enough kahunas to post it with your real name!

Great for all you breastfeeding moms! I applaud each and every one of you for doing what you think is best for your children! Ignore the comments by blissfully ignorant prudes that don't care about our children. Half are probably feeling guilty for not doing for their own children and the other half have some sexual dysfunction they are transferring to nursing moms!

36

i am 9 weeks pregnant and i think that breastfeeding is gross, i dont plan on breastfeeding when i give birth... it just doesnt seem normal to me. why do you think they have sell baby formula??? and yeah maybe thats how babies survived back in the old days but were not living in those times anymore, plus since im gonna be a working mom, breastfeeding is just not an option for me, it never was and never will be.

37

Although breastfeeding is a natural way to feed your child,I personally feel that it is pretty gross to have to see in public.It's like a train wreck, even though you want to look away you find that it is hard not to.It's like the time I took my daughter to gymnastics and this woman lifted up her shirt and breastfed her son right in the middle of our conversation.He was like 14 mos old and he bumped his head on a table and in order for him to quit crying she just lifted up her shirt and let him stand there to breastfeed.Oh it was not a pretty site to see some saggy, flaccid boob with a child attached to it.I could not make eye contact with her during the entire convo.That was extremely rude in my opinion...There is a fine line between breast feeding for necessity and breastfeeding for pleasure.If I see a woman breastfeeding a child who can walk and eat solids then I immediately label her a pervert in my mind.Don't even get me started about the ethics of breastfeeding until a child is in elementary school...I see my breasts more as sexual objects for some crazy reason, and it grosses me out to use them as nourishment for my child.It's just personal preference there,but please breastfeed your kids discreetly for the sake of all the people who cannot stand to look at breastfeeding.

38

Breastfeeding is gross indeed! WIth formula the dad can participate in raising the child. i agree with CK, some moms breastfeed for 'pleasure' and in a sick way. I worked for La Leche League (even though im against breastfeeding) and one of their reasons to breastfeed on brochures was for pleasure. Also it gives you sore nipples and you have pain if you dont express milk every 2 hours or so. Working moms should be giving formula anyway. I am glad they are other people who are grossed out by breastfeeding. I almost plan on having no children because Im afraid society or my husband will try to pressure me into breastfeeding.

39

Anonymous - thanks for your comment and opinion.

Though I certainly don't agree with it as I feel the health of the child is more important (and it's not debateable whether breastmilk is nutritionally superior than formula). If you are not interested in nursing, why not pump? I preferred pumping to nursing myself in order for dad (or others) to help with the feeding.

40

Wow I'm rather surprised by some of the comments here. I'm 23 years old and I don't have children, but when I do I plan oon breastfeeding for at least a couple of months. I see the "times have changed" argument flawed because although cultural preferences have changed, our biological functions have not. Human biology has predisposed a woman's breasts for feeding an infant child. Whether you chose to do so for your own child(ren) is up to you, but that doesn't mean it gives anyone the right to force their views on anyone else-- breastfeeding or not.

I also find is interesting that while some people find breastfeeding gross, they drool over the pornographic images of women pinching their nipples (unnecessary and ouch!), they go out and buy clips and chains for BDSM pleasure (while that's your own business, I personally wouldn't want them getting yanked), they insert implants to make them bigger (which is another thing that is up to each individual, but has its risks as well as benefits), and they are continued to be paraded around as sexual objects.

Now which of those is part of breasts' natural function?

Breastfeeding is fine in public and is not indecent at all, but like all things it needs to be done with courtesy. For instance, you wouldn't pick your nose just out there in public? You use a tissue to blow your nose instead. You don't just let out a huge hocking fart (maybe you do, I don't know) in public? (which is funny considering that more people probably do this anyway, which is gross and has a disgusting gaseous scent). There's nothing wrong with using a scarf to cover up and get the feeding done. I'd rather see a breastfeeding mother being considerate than two people making out in public, with their tongues probing each other's mouths visibly. Ew.

I bet in Europe they're all laughing at us right now for being such uptight Americans. They are actually able to make distinctions between biology and sexuality.

41

Honestly, the way I see it, breastfeeding is just as natrual as sex. However, you don't see me stripping naked with my partner and having at it right there in front of everyone.
If you want to breastfeed your child then good for you but PLEASE don't do it in public!

42

wow, people have issues. I am so glad i moved to Europe so I can feed my baby in public without prudish puritanical descendants deeming me as immoral. America so warped in soooo many ways.

43

Why do people who are against breastfeeding in public always compare it to other bodily functions like, burping, farting and sex. That's like comparing apples to oranges. Let's compare it to people eating which is the only direct parallel. I'm pretty sure most people have no problem seeing another person eat in public

My children would never want to eat with a blanket over their head. Would you?

Formula was invented as food for babies who's mothers were unable to nurse. It was not meant to be used for every baby. Big corporations took it over and pushed it on people with their multi- million dollar advertising campaigns. Now we have more people with diabetes and other autoimmune diseases. More obesity, increased breast cancer rats in women who don't breastfeed and, as this thread shows, lower IQ in people who are not breastfed.

I don't understand people that are against giving babies the most perfect food for their minds and bodies.

Our society truly sickens me.

44

Please note -- this is coming from an expectant mother -- I personally think that although breast feeding is "natural", it is innappropriate to do so in public. There are still places around the world where people live in tribes, and are not fully clothed, for example, and this is "natural" too, but it is not really acceptable in America/western civilization.

I just think that it would not be very hard to excuse oneself to breastfeed, or to use a bottle -- I mean, I figure if I am discreet/polite enough to excuse myself from a dinner table to blow my nose (which is also very "natural", I'm sure), then a breastfeeding mother should be discreet/polite enough to excuse oneself to breastfeed, or in the VERY least to cover with a blanket.

I just think the "natural" argument is funny -- so is using the restroom, bathing, throwing up, and other similar activities; That does not make those activities appropriate in public.

45

Men, women, and children all have breasts. It's funny how we can fawn all over a buff guy without a shirt, let our kids run shirtless in the yard without batting an eye, but if a woman is providing nourishment to her baby it's distasteful? I'll admit when I was younger and my friend became a mother I was a tad uncomfortable as she lifted her shirt to nurse. But that was MY discomfort or "issue" to get past. It was not my place to make her or her baby suffer. Spending time wit my friend and her darling baby was a pleasure, if I saw a nipple or two there was no harm in it. Eventually I became a mother and breastfed my daughter. It wasn't gross.

I want to encourage any woman who is considering breatfeding for her child(ren). You won't regret it.

46

man. number 38, i am so glad you DON'T work for la leche anymore because you clearly have no idea about any credible aspect about breastfeeding at any point in the course of the event. man.

number 33, let me ask you. are you pro life? or pro choice? humor me.

number 28, eating in public can be offensive. yes. please chew with your mouth closed. think.... nursing baby. keeps mouth closed. doesn't smack and burp. watch one sometime. they will provide you a GREAT example of appropriate public dining.

and, number 14, i really hope you don't inject yourself with meds on the bus. public health threat. uncapped and used needles. bus accident... you see where i am going with this? a baby shouldn't have to wait to eat just because YOU have a medical condition and are feeling bitter.

i fully agree with trish (number 35). put your name on your ignorance. please. grow up and own your insecure and intolerant and NOSY perspectives.

47

We live in a strange society when ADULTS-who have the ability to move, leave, turn their heads, etc-feel that their so-called comfort overrides the needs of a CHILD. It's an immature, selfish, ignorant way of thinking. Mothers don't breastfeed to "disgust" you. You aren't that important. Mothers breastfeed to nourish their children. Get over yourselves.

48

Wow. Just, wow.
Some of these responses are absolutely repulsive. BREASTS ARE MADE FOR BREASTFEEDING. If it bothers you, then don't look! Go research anatomy folks, and you'll see that that is the NATURAL purpose for breasts. I'm sorry if it bothers YOU because you're so insecure with sexuality that you'd rather a baby starve or have inferior, often-contaminated formula shoved in their mouth, but those of us who actually CARE about our children are going to ignore YOUR personal problems and do what's best for our children, which is feed then when and where they're hungry. If you don't like it, put a blanket over YOUR HEAD, or go eat in the damned bathroom.

49

Number 14- I think I know who you are as I have read this diabetic sad sob story before. However, I have to make a distinction between a babys need to breastfeed and your need to be injected. The distinction is that a baby has no concept of why he can't be fed; all he knows is that he wants to eat and mom isn't giving it to him. You are an adult and can chose to delay your meds. I am not going to neglect my child because some prudes feel uncomfortable. Also since no other pro breastfeeder has said this: not all babies will take a bottle and not all mothers can pump. My baby will not take a bottle and I will not force him and create nipple confusion. For the mothers that can't pump; what are they supposed to do? I wouldn't give my child an ounce of that crap-in-a-can to please anyone, so if I couldn't pump I would also breastfeed in public. There is nothing wrong with public breastfeeding, infact I think it's more disgusting to see a mother shoving a bottle into the babys face. I feel so sorry for babies that are bottlefed because formula is not meant for all babies to eat. Formula causes GI pain and suffering for the baby. BREAST IS BEST AND IT'S NATURAL so get over it people or F*CK OFF! As far as people with some type of woman hate or sexual dysfunction, well that's your problem and not my childs. I also do not appreciate the "anonymous" person who keeps calling an infant or child stupid. Just because you don't have kids and don't want kids doesn't mean that other peoples kids are "stupid" and no I will not shove a pacifier into my childs face when he is hungry. He will eat just as you and I eat when we are hungry. Next time you are hungry, shove a f*cking pacifier in your face and shut up. Some people are so ignorant. I bet half of the people who are uncomfortable with breastfeeding go home an oogle pornography and that sort of "adult" entertainment. This is our warped society. Well you know what makes me uncomfortable? Going to a store and seeing some old man buying a nudy magazine and some KY Jelly. However, there is nothing I can do about so I LOOK AWAY!! Look away people just look away if you don't wnat to see something that you deem distastful and get a FREAKING LIFE!!!

50

To my four July 2nd commenters:

Thank you for sharing what are your very passionate feelings.

This is still a hot topic of debate (though I will never really understand why). As several have noted, breasts were provided to women to feed their babies; regardless of what many in our society think they are for.

51

I just flipped through some of the comments on the page and I was horrified buy some peoples attitudes. Do some of you honestly think that I should pump a bottle before heading out the door? My breasts are intended to feed my child (I don't care if you believe in God or evolution they were put there for a reason). That is why during pregnancy the body finishes breast development AND starts the milk making process. My boobs are NOT for my husband they are for nurturing my children. How ever, I do enjoy when my husband "plays with them but it is NOT the same as nursing my daughter. There are two COMPLEETLY different things going on... Just as there is a difference between when my Dad gives me a kiss good by and my husband give me a kiss good by!

I don't "flash" my nipple when I nurse in public (and yes I do I have errands to run and I can't see staying at home until my daughter weans). I show less skin when I nurse then most women do when they are walking down the street!

I will NOT pump a bottle... For one the bottle does NOT provide the bond and contact my daughter needs (usually to help her com down. Also as soon as breast milk leaves the body it starts to digest itself (that is another reason it is perfect for the developing digestive system). So the longer it is "sitting out" it looses some of its nutritional qualities....

Most of you women need to do some research before you start talking about breastfeeding! From what I have read most of you have NO IDEA what you are talking about. That is disgusting. I will nurse any where at any time because it is my child's right to eat the way nature intended her to!

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I read through all of these commits and was shocked by the lack of repsect for the natural functions of the human breast. Breastfeeding is not comparable to urinating in public or having sex in public for a few reasons.

Reason #1- Having sex and Urinating are not something that sustain another humans life. Breastfeeding is the only source of nutrition for babies for the first 6 months. Many of you suggested a mom use formula. My guess is that not a SINGLE one of you have researched formula because if you had you would know that formula has many many risk and can be very dangerous. Why should a women have to risk her child's health because people like you can not handle something as simple and innocent as a functional breast?

Reason #2- Urine contains bacteria. Breastmilk on the other hand contains little to no bacteria. Any bacteria that may be in the milk is killed by the antibodies. Numerous studies have shown that the longer the milk is out the less bacteria it has. There are even some studies that show the some STDs are killed by the antibodies in breastmilk. The scientific community has been doing research on mothers who have AIDs and are breastfeeding. Many of the babies did not contract the HIV from their mothers. Just something to think about.

Also to be quite frank unless you dress like the omish you really don't have much room to talk. Most women in low cut shirts are showing off more than a women breastfeeding. I hope those of you who don't yet have children and are saying that you will formula feed do a little research before putting your own selfish opinions before your child's health. Formula is NOT the same as breastmilk. I hope you figure that out! :(

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OMG, I can't believe some of the comments on here! People are so rude! Gee, I'm so sorry my not allowing my child to scream in hunger pangs offends you so much! I'm so sorry that seeing less than a square inch of boob completely ruins your life. I think if you see/hear anything when my child, who is A LOT smarter than any of you pigs, nurses in PUBLIC, you need to get your eyes and ears out of my face! And all you annonymous fools out there, yes, it IS ok. Most states have laws protecting the rights of breastfed babies (It's not about mom's right to breastfeed, it's about a baby's right to EAT when they're hungry).


Bottles/formula were made for women who CAN'T breastfeed, not for women who just don't want to. My husband has a GREAT relationship with our daughter and very rarely took part in the feeding process. But he plays with her, changes diapers, gives her baths, brushes her teeth, plays with her, feeds her solids, ect. You don't have to give the baby a bottle just for Dad to be involved. And I guarantee you those who feel that having a kid suck on your breast is gross, you'll feel differently the first time YOUR baby latches on. The rush of oxytocin will make it feel completely natural, because it is. What would you women do if formula and bottles had never been invented? (If only!!!)


Breastfeeding is NOT gross, the people who are ultra-prude and think women should go around in burkas with nothing showing but their eyes so they can see are GROSS. We don't live in the Middle East (at least I don't), I live in America. And BTW, most of the bfing women I know don't wear "dental floss", they wear normal clothes. And when they breastfeed, an untrained eye can't even tell. I know when my DD nurses, you can't hear any "gross sucking noises". But you know what is gross? Formula fed babies who have formula running down their cheeks and chins because the bottle flow is too fast for them. Then proceed to throw up because you shoved 8 oz of formula down a newborn's throat who's stomach can only hold 1 oz tops! Formula is gross, not breastfeeding.

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OMG, I can't believe some of the comments on here! People are so rude! Gee, I'm so sorry my not allowing my child to scream in hunger pangs offends you so much! I'm so sorry that seeing less than a square inch of boob completely ruins your life. I think if you see/hear anything when my child, who is A LOT smarter than any of you pigs, nurses in PUBLIC, you need to get your eyes and ears out of my face! And all you annonymous fools out there, yes, it IS ok. Most states have laws protecting the rights of breastfed babies (It's not about mom's right to breastfeed, it's about a baby's right to EAT when they're hungry).


Bottles/formula were made for women who CAN'T breastfeed, not for women who just don't want to. My husband has a GREAT relationship with our daughter and very rarely took part in the feeding process. But he plays with her, changes diapers, gives her baths, brushes her teeth, plays with her, feeds her solids, ect. You don't have to give the baby a bottle just for Dad to be involved. And I guarantee you those who feel that having a kid suck on your breast is gross, you'll feel differently the first time YOUR baby latches on. The rush of oxytocin will make it feel completely natural, because it is. What would you women do if formula and bottles had never been invented? (If only!!!)


Breastfeeding is NOT gross, the people who are ultra-prude and think women should go around in burkas with nothing showing but their eyes so they can see are GROSS. We don't live in the Middle East (at least I don't), I live in America. And BTW, most of the bfing women I know don't wear "dental floss", they wear normal clothes. And when they breastfeed, an untrained eye can't even tell. I know when my DD nurses, you can't hear any "gross sucking noises". But you know what is gross? Formula fed babies who have formula running down their cheeks and chins because the bottle flow is too fast for them. Then proceed to throw up because you shoved 8 oz of formula down a newborn's throat who's stomach can only hold 1 oz tops! Formula is gross, not breastfeeding.

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Lucky Mom, it's going to remain a hot topic until the people who are so selfish and so ignorant that they put their wants before an infant's n eeds exist. It's only an issue because they make it one.

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I totally agree Gina. It's not the breastfeeding moms who are making it a hot topic or causing trouble. It's the people who choose to make it an issue but they are uncomfortable with the human body.

I believe people being uncomfortable with the human body and breast being SO sexualized is causing a public health issue. People are SO negetive about breastfeeding and they are giving breastfeeding moms such hell about it that more and more people are choosing to formula feed or bottle feed breastmilk. People need to step back, do a little research and get more comfortable with their bodies because ONLY THEN will this issue cool down!

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I totally agree Gina. It's not the breastfeeding moms who are making it a hot topic or causing trouble. It's the people who choose to make it an issue but they are uncomfortable with the human body.

I believe people being uncomfortable with the human body and breast being SO sexualized is causing a public health issue. People are SO negetive about breastfeeding and they are giving breastfeeding moms such hell about it that more and more people are choosing to formula feed or bottle feed breastmilk. People need to step back, do a little research and get more comfortable with their bodies because ONLY THEN will this issue cool down!

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Gina/Anonymous - you are absolutely right. It's not the breastfeeding moms making it the hot topic which in my opinion, it should never have been/be.

The fact that breastfeeding is even discussed in a negative light is frankly, amazing. Like we don't have real issues to deal with in this country besides moms truly caring for the best nutrition for their children.

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It's not that people are grossed out buy seeing a boob, hell we see boobs all the time. People are grossed out by seeing a baby attached to it. I personnaly have no problem with it, I just don't want to watch it. To me, breasts are made for sexual pleasure, FUN bags, Not FEED bags, lol. I can't imagine having sex after letting a baby slurp on my goodies.

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Uh, since when does breastfeeding in public constitute "whipping out a boob?" This is the exact type of language we need to stop using because it supports our culture of paranoia about nudity ... probably because we've sexualized boobs to the point where most people can't think of them any other way. Whipping out boobs happens in bars, not when a mother feeds her child. Sheesh!

All that aside though ... it's a BOOB. So what?

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Uh, since when does breastfeeding in public constitute "whipping out a boob?" And "seeing a baby attached to [one]" is gross now? I'm honestly at a loss for words. Almost ...

This is the exact type of language we need to stop using because it supports this insane culture of paranoia we have around breastfeeding babies and (gasp) toddlers. "Whipping out boobs" happens in bars, not when a mother feeds her child. Sheesh!

All that aside though ... it's a BOOB. So what?

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It's called a breast pump people. When you are out in public you can "whip" that out!!! We don't want to see your boobs and it is VERY inconsiderate and publicly indecent and many states have laws about public indecency. These states encourage breast feeding but cover it up! Ever hear of a blanket? Now I KNOW that is not asking too much. So stop being soooooo selfish and "suck it up"! Being a woman myself, I see so many women just not like being told what to do but this is a democracy not anarchy. Exposing one's private parts in PUBLIC is illegal any form or fashion so STOP IT and do it privately!

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Oh and by the way, women keep asking if I would eat in a bathroom or under a blanket. Well if I was latched on to private appendage then yes, I would. YOU NEED TO COVER IT UP!!! I did and any woman who doesn't I see as disgusting, selfish and outright stupid!

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Of course, breastfeeding is natural and the best way to nourish your child. But lactivists -- who are so defensive about their rights and feelings -- are often extremely intolerant of people who disagree with them. And people who dislike public breastfeeding have a right to feel as they do, regardless of your disapproval.

I nursed my two children and tried to plan my outings so I did not need to nurse in public. However, when necessary, I did -- discreetly. Only on a single occasion did I encounter any rudeness. But I think a lot of women nowadays make a political point of exposing themselves while nursing. They do their cause great harm and are at least partly responsible for some of the anti-breastfeeding comments on this page.

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To be honest, I dislike it. But I don't feel that people should be banned from public breastfeeding and I don't have anything against those who do it; I simply look away and - sorry to be honest - try to hide how much it freaks me out.

There are so many benefits to breastfeeding which I fully appreciate, and I suppose it is 'natural'. But even as a young woman who would like to have children in future, I can't help but feel strange about it. I put this down to the fact that for one thing, I see my breasts/nipples, personally, as sexual objects. They're incredibly sensitive and thus an area I wouldn't entirely associate with placing an infant! This isn't an argument, however, I see brought up a lot in the breastfeeding debate - so yes, despite the fact that I have tolerance for breastfeeding, I can't help but find a degree of weirdness in it. To the extent that if I witness breastfeeding/get into serious discussion about it, I find myself covering my boobs in the same way that someone would cover, say, their hand if someone spoke about a hand injury! Apologies, but try as I might, it gives me the downright creeps.

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I'm 23, and don't plan on breastfeeding, ever. I understand why a lot of people do but, it is just not for me at all.
Sorry to say but my boobs are far too much fun to turn into a meal. haha.

But seriously, pro's and con's to both.

As far as in public...kinda weird to see...little gross, but again, I understand.

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Re: Anonymous

You mean to tell me that you actually watch this mother close enough to see her boob? You are the one that should be ashamed for gaulking!! After all you are the one making it an issue. Her being discreet is not the issue but your behavior is!! It's hard enough being a new mom and trying to get this down without having someone staring at you while your baby is screaming.

Boobs were not meant to be a sexual object yet that's exactly what our society has made them. Boobs produce milk for a reason. If you are so offended by watching a mother feed her child then turn your head!!!

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Have you ever seen a woman in a burka breastfeeding? I have. I cannot believe women in this country are so completely backward...I understand for alot of the older generation they were told that formula was somewhat more "posh" or that only the lower classes breastfed...now its almost the opposite-its like the longer you can do it-it must mean the longer you have to not go back to work. anyone with an education knows not only is it completely superior to any formula but also the bonding time cannot be replaced. its not easy work-but calling it gross is as uneducated as it comes. anyone who has ever breastfed knows they longer become sexual objects to you! and you can't understand why people don't get that...

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ps- i understand how some of you might feel...when i was pregnant i wasn't sure id like it either. but until you try it...dont knock it. also-covering up usually isnt too much of an option. legally you don't have to. also- you shouldn't have to (you're doing nothing wrong, infact, you're doing something not only right but preferred by the medical community). also, usually the baby hates it and they breathe through their nose so when theyre covered it can become very stuffy. also-you need to sometimes readjust and im not going to sit there worrying about what anyone else thinks. american academy of pediatrics says at least one year, the world health organization says at least two, and the average age of weaning worldwide is FOUR AND HALF YEARS. so i'm sorry you weren't breastfed either ;o(

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to all of those haters: why should my baby hide while eating but we have to look at all of your gross mouths eating in public? put a blanket over your head and try eating. come on people: it's feeding your baby. way to make mothers feel like crap for making the best decision possible for their babies. the breast is for feeding a baby. why should I sit in some nasty dirty germ infested bathroom so I can feed my baby? so I don't take a chance that I may offend someone who instead of looking away is looking at my breast while feeding my innocent baby? you don't mind looking at breasts if they are in a sexual manner (magazines at grocery store checkout) but you mind if us women are feeding our babies in a non-sexual manner? wow there is something wrong with our society. Did you know that now 90% of formulas in the us contain a toxic chemical that can cause great harm (even death) to babies? you should be happy that so many women are taking such great care of their babies. you complain about all of the news and messed up crap going on in todays society- so when mothers try to love their babies we are criticized. unbelievable.

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to all of those haters: why should my baby hide while eating but we have to look at all of your gross mouths eating in public? put a blanket over your head and try eating. come on people: it's feeding your baby. way to make mothers feel like crap for making the best decision possible for their babies. the breast is for feeding a baby. why should I sit in some nasty dirty germ infested bathroom so I can feed my baby? so I don't take a chance that I may offend someone who instead of looking away is looking at my breast while feeding my innocent baby? you don't mind looking at breasts if they are in a sexual manner (magazines at grocery store checkout) but you mind if us women are feeding our babies in a non-sexual manner? wow there is something wrong with our society. Did you know that now 90% of formulas in the us contain a toxic chemical that can cause great harm (even death) to babies? you should be happy that so many women are taking such great care of their babies. you complain about all of the news and messed up crap going on in todays society- so when mothers try to love their babies we are criticized. unbelievable.

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90% of formulas contain toxic substances? Reeeally now? I guess since all four of my siblings and I were formula fed, that should explain why we all grew into healthy adulthood, all acheived higher education and successful lives...after being 'poisoned' with formula?

Seriously folks, this argument is ridiculous. I think breast is fine and bottle is fine. It's a personal choice. If you don't like seeing a boob, then move somewhere where you don't have to look at it. If you're seeing a 'flaccid boob with a baby attached' you're gawking! I mean seriously, it's not like there are hoards of women nursing babies everywhere. Chances are wherever you are, you can get up and go if your delicate sensibilities are offended.

Sheesh, what a bunch of rabid, foaming-at-the-mouth lunatics!

And no, honestly...I don't like seeing other people's boobs. So I MOVE. I don't make a big freaking deal about it.

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I am fairly you women who is considering breast-feeding (when that moment comes) when my boyfriend and I chose to have children. After lots of research, I do believe I have came to an answer. I hear so many people state that breastfeeding is disgusting and unnatural. They think it's "perverted" to breastfeed your child past a certain age (6 months is what a lot of people believe) and if you have a son, many people think it's just unacceptable. If breastfeeding is so gross and unnatural, then why on earth did god create women with mammary glands? To create something for men to stare at? No. To feed our children. It is proven that children who are breastfeeding/have breastfed (especially when breastfed PAST a certain age) have higher IQ's than children who did not breastfeed (or only breastfed for a short amount of time.) Breast milk is full of natural nutrients that no kind of imitation breast-milk or popular baby-formula could ever provide. Men are the ones who perverted the act of breastfeeding. (Sorry men! No offense!) They grope, kiss and suck on our breasts and imitate the innocent, natural act of an infant doing what they are suppose to. Formula is what is unnatural. The manufacturers put a cute, little bear on the container or carton of powder to make mothers think that this is what is BEST for their child(ren) to drink. A mother's milk is what is best for the infant. Breastfeeding is what the loving, able mother would do. For those WHO CAN'T, formula is okay. It is not what is best for your child, but none-the-less, an infant has to eat. If you can breastfeed, I say do not be a prude, and DO NOT let others criticize you for your decision to do what is natural. Do what your body is meant to do. We have milk there for a reason! This is just what I believe.

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I meant to say "I am a fairly young woman." I was having computer problems!

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I am a teenage girl and i think its disgusting to have a baby dribbling over your breasts.Dont you feel like youve been violeted?Besides,youre saying"Its naturall,the baby is hungry"Ok,so that means that im free to eat during the class or mass,because im hungry?Or,i can feel free to take a dump or piss in public cause its NATURALL,animals do it.So what exacly depart us from animals?You cant just do something just cause you feel like to.Youre not an animal.So dont act like one.Btw whats wrong with bottels?Next time you go in public,bring a bottle.It wont make the baby sick or whatever,its scientificly proven to be safe.And i dont look up on my breasts like some food factory for offsprings.They are just part of me that makes me a woman.Dont think my thoughst dont mean anything and i talk like that cause im young.Im not a stupid spoiled teen.I know what im talking about.And i agree with Anonymus,the world is overpopulated allready.Instead,why not adopt the remaining children?Why make more?Isnt 6 billion enough?OK i got a little carried away,but yeah,ive proven my point

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Anonymous - you are just showing your ignorance. Please stop before you embarass yourself even more.

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Lela- first I wanted to apologize because I wasn't clear with my facts. Do a google search for the following: melamine in 90 percent of infant formula and you will come up with dozens of pages explaining this situation (I wrote an earlier post but it wasn't added b/c I guess you aren't allowed to add web pages here).

Melamine is a plastics preserver which earlier the FDA concluded no amounts were safe. However, recently it has been shown that melamine has been added to over 90% of US infant formulas and now the FDA is saying it is okay (without any research to back this up).

I apologize Lela because I am not suggesting that mothers who chose to formula feed their babies are 'worse' than nursing mothers- we should all come together and support each others decisions. I did not mean to offend you- it just scares me that the government allows a toxic poison to be allowed at this present time in infant formula. I am fearful of this so at the moment I personally think it's best to feed my baby breast-milk. We should support each other and obviously you came out fine and are an articulate human being who I am sure had a wonderful upbringing so please know these comments are directed to the companies and government etc.

Lastly- anonymous: going to the bathroom and nursing your baby is a ridiculous comparison. YOu have waste when going to the bathroom and nutrients when feeding your baby. I shouldn't even entertain your ridiculous rants.

On a smaller note- I think breasts were 'made' (in terms of evolution) for both attracting a mate and for feeding a baby. These aren't mutually exclusive- as in order to reproduce you needed to have attraction etc. and breasts are sensitive when sexually stimulated. They also produce milk to feed a baby so most of you are partially correct).

Take care everyone and it's a new year so lets come together and be kind to one another. We may have healthier and happier babies if we offer each other support. Take care.

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'sick and gross' is just the new slang for "I'm uncomfortable with this" and it's usually just because I have no idea where to look because I don't want to be seen as a perv if I accidentally stare.

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I breastfeed my daughter because its the best thing for her....having said that - if you don't like it...you can kiss my butt. :)

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most of youre trashy comments about how breastfeeding is so gross are just simply stupid. it makes you sound like youre the ones who are really gross 4 thinking in such a perverted way. i feed my baby when she is hungrey, and yes she makes a slurp sound. you make a mash youre food around in youre mouth sound to when you eat. im feeding my baby, not gross. your sucking youre hubby's dick..SLURP! thats nasty.

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i breastfed my oldest daughter for a year, and am now nursing my 4 month old. yes breast are sexuall, but they are also for feeding a baby. i think the choise between bottle, or breast is a personal one. i stay at home with my kids, so there is and was not any reason for me to bottle feed. also my youngest cannot take a bottle. formula makes her sick. i do not think formula is toxic however, i was bottle fed, as well as most american were, and i am perfectly fine. there are things in breastmilk, that can not be reproduced. also breastfeed is not considered indecent exposer, and in most states women have the right to nurse a baby whereever she wants without covering up, and it is considered harassment to ask her to do so. i find it hard to believe in a country where it is considered normal for women to walk around in bikini tops, and that be ok, but when a women feeds her child it is indecent. or where a cover of babytalk showing a nursing baby is seen as lude, but the cover of a mag like maxim isn't. if you want to bottlefeed do it, if you want to nurse do. niether one is wrong. but for all the people who find nursing gross, or sexuall, you have some issuses that you need to work out. oh, and i'm breastfeeding as i type this, guess that makes me unladylike.

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I am a FTM who has always thought breasfeeding was unnatural-FOR ME. I don't really fixate on woman who I see breastfeed in public. I think that if they are able to do it, it's the most "natural" source of nutrition for their babies. However, I will say from my own personal choices, breastfeeding seems unnatural because I think of the breasts as very sexual. That's it, I cannot go beyond that. Even before I had a child, I felt that way, and having a child didn't change it for me, although I hoped it would. I couldn't even attempt to try because of how uncomfortable it made me. I am an educated woman in medicine and I STILL felt this way even knowing how great breastmilk is for babies. The ways I would describe how I feel about it to parallel it to something would probably "gross" everyone else out too. You might not understand why I feel this way, because breastfeeding seems perfectly normal to you. Does a man breastfeeding seem normal to you? How about breastfeeding a 5 year old? Or an elderly person? If any of those ideas make you very uncomfortable, then maybe you can start to see where some of us are coming from. You may think I am sick by saying those things, but that is how I feel about breastfeeding, again, for myself, not others. I came from a well-rounded family, and I was breastfed. My upbringing, history, or any social standards did not influence this. I honestly cannot remember a time when I didn't feel this way.

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Breastfeeding = Eating (eating should not take place under a blanket or in a bathroom)

Breastfeeding is not: blowing your nose, burping, farting, having sex, giving yourself an insulin shot, gross, obscene, rude, and so on.

IT IS EATING

If you see something you don't like in public that does not actually do harm to you or others JUST LOOK AWAY.

Formula is POISON if you can breastfeed & you love your child DO IT and don't hide in the bathroom or anything lame like that. (If you thing vaginal birth, breastfeeding etc are unnatural, gross, child abuse, obscene, For the sake of humanity you should not procreate. Your children will be sick, have ADD, have sexual issues, have a low IQ, and so on...spare us please)

Breasts are for feeding. Their use during sexual acts is secondary if not unnaturally developed through culture. Just like some people have:
Foot fetishes (but feet arent sexual)
Like their earlobes licked (but ears arent sexual)
Some people like breast play during sex, but breasts are NOT SEXUAL...corrupt conditioning has taught you this.

Nudity is NOT sexual. Being sexual is sexual. (this can be done while clothed or while nude they are independent variables)

But these issues/misconceptions/negative social programing/government and big corporation programing are not limited to breastfeeding, its epidemic

  • C-section is replacing vaginal birth
  • Artificial insemination may replace natural conception
  • Silicone implants are replacing breasts
  • Bottles have replaced breastfeeding
  • Drugs have replaced herbs
  • GM produce & artificial substances have replaced food
  • Toxic/Cancerous lifestyles have replaced traditional natural living
  • Human farming will replace civilization

The idea that man made/artificial/scientific things are superior to god made/naturally derived/spiritual is the primary corruption in the control of human beings. If you have these mental corruptions, you may want to start waking up from this mental snooze and do something to reverse the corrupt conditioning.

Goodluck

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Thank you TruthBTold. I wish more people would wake up!

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At first I was shocked and angry when I read all of the ridiculous comments posted here against breastfeeding, but know that I think about it, who cares what these people think. They are stupid and ignorant. Why should I go out of my way to make stupid and ignorant people feel comfortable? Simple solution for them get up and go somewhere else if your so uncomfortable.

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Breastfeeding and breastmilk are made by...nature? God? Well, by the same force that made...the universe. To optimally nourish humans, physically and emotionally. Formula is made by...Meade Johnson, Ross Laboratories, etc. for...profit. Whom do you trust?

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I am 31 years old and don't have children. I probably will have children because my husband wants to. I don't "want" to but I don't think I'm that kind of girl who will ever "want" to. I'll be the kind that is happy when it happens. I'm too wrapped up in my career goals to foster the want and I watched child rearing be a very difficult and burdensome process for my single mom. And I grew up in a no-touching, no-I love you, no intimacy home so THAT is just not natural for me. That's who I am. And there ARE others like me out there. The breast feeders out there who are comfortable with it are out there too. Glad you are comfortable....but knowing others are embarrassed, uncomfortable, and even grossed out, could you be kind enough to spare others of that?

I had an appointment with a woman a few months ago who was sitting two feet from me on the other side of my desk. She was not wearing a bra- a white shirt- and pulled it right out to start breastfeeding. No wrap, no nothing. She maintained eye contact with me the entire time like we both weren't noticing what was going on. I was completely humiliated. It was so incredibly unprofessional. I work in a building with marble floors and people who wear suits to work. And even if it was someone's living room and there was a shawl , I would still be so incredibly uncomfortable.

If I have children, I will force myself to breastfeed b/c it is clinically proven to be what is best for the child. However, NO ONE will see me do it ever. Not even my husband. I envision myself feeling like a piece of cattle and that is just so degrading. I'm glad it is right and what is best for the child, but humiliating for me. So, to ease that, I will avoid situations where I have to feel like that by not doing it in front of others.

And I am SURE there are people out there who feel like me. For that reason also, I would never want to make people feel like the train wreck analogy....you dont want to look but you have to thing. I will go into a bedroom or a bathroom. If you can find a bathroom to pee, you can find a bathroom to breastfeed. And If you KNOW the baby eats every two hours and you are going on a long shopping trip, pack a bottle. You ARE capable of planning ahead. So the whole argument of do you want to sit with a screaming child or a breastfeeding mom has too many holes----why didnt you plan ahead is the real question.

That's my story and I'm stickin' to it.

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I'll be honest-- I'm a mom, and I don't like the idea of breastfeeding either. I did it for a short time, and it certainly wasn't for me. It's inconvenient, it's messy and it's (sometimes) embarrassing.

I know that breast milk is best, but if I HAD to do it again, I'd pump and bottle-feed. Sorry-- but my children were bottle-fed (pumped milk for a few months, then formula) and they turned out PERFECTLY fine. Not only did they turn out fine, but they flourished!

To you moms who say that you won't pump because it "doesn't provide the bond", it is YOU who doesn't get the warm fuzzies from it-- not the baby. Holding your baby in your arms while he drinks your milk from a bottle (or formula, if you choose) is all the bonding a baby needs. You're not going to ruin his life because you gave him your own nourishing milk in a bottle while you were in public and nursed him on your breasts at home. Whether you admit it or not, you die-hard breastfeeders who won't even pump DO get pleasure out of the process. Whether it's mental, emotional or physical, you ARE getting something out of it.

Whether you like it or not, breasts are sexualized in Western culture. I feel EXTREMELY uncomfortable seeing a woman nursing in public. Now, mind you-- if it MUST be done, then heck YES do it with DISCRETION. Cover yourself. I have family members/friends who just whip'em out like it's nothing, and I find that to be extremely offensive. Maybe it's NOT what nature intended, but it IS how it IS.

That having been said, there is NOTHING wrong with pumping so that it can be used in public. I said it before and I'll say it again-- no harm will come of your child by giving it a bottle (with your own milk) while you're in public. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it-- that is, unless your 'bond' with your child is more on your behalf than his.

As far as formula goes, this isn't 1950. We've come a long, long, LOONNNG way as far as formulas are concerned. Are they as good as breast milk? No. Are they a million times better than they were? Yes. Do they contain some of the same ingredients found in breast milk? Yes.

Moms who choose to feed babies with formula aren't bad moms-- nor are they ignorant. (Well, I speak for the ones I know personally, but I am sure there are exceptions.)

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Hi there. I wished to advise you that some parts of your site are onerous to scan for me, as I'm color blind. I have deuteranopia, but there are other kinds of color blindness that may also experience problems. I can understand most of the web site OK, and those elements I have difficulties with I can comprehend by using a adapted browser. Neverthless, it'd be great if you could consider we color-blind folk while carrying out your next website re-working. Thank you.

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I think it's gross too, sorry. The idea of being forced to suck on someones sweaty breast grosses me out. Yes, yes, I know, breasts are not gross, it's natural, formula is fake and made by satan, etc. save your breath. Just because someone doesn't agree with you doesn't make them wrong.

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"I think it's gross too, sorry. The idea of being forced to suck on someones sweaty breast grosses me out. Yes, yes, I know, breasts are not gross, it's natural, formula is fake and made by satan, etc. save your breath. Just because someone doesn't agree with you doesn't make them wrong."

Dear Anonymous,
You are wrong.
~Nichole

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You're absolutely right.I couldn't agree more with you.Indeed a good read.

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I sure don't want to see public breastfeeding. Take it behind a door! I don't pick my nose or scratch my butt in public, and I apologize if I sneeze or cough in front of other people. Tell you what, if mothers can boob feed in front of me, I can lick my fingers and touch public doors, tables, etc. with my hands. :D

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Personally it bothers me in certain situations and wether or not they're covered up.

If I'm eating at a PUBLIC resturant, or even a private resturant for that matter, and a woman has to feed her baby, fine. But she should at least have the Courtesy to cover herself at least where others can't see. I'm not saying attempting to smother your baby but instead making it where others can't see and yes this is possible.

It's a mixed opinion and some feel that doing it where it's visible is wrong and some don't. But those of you who are all "MY BABY HAS TO EAT, IT'S NOT GROSS." If it were any similiar situation you know that you would want someone to just simply cover up and avoid argument, which is why I don't see why this should even be a big deal.

Those who don't cover up are the reason that comments like the ones above were created. Wouldn't you rather just avoid argument?

And for those who are saying "I don't want to smother my baby with a blanket." then simply don't do eat while you're in the resturant.

Personally if it's somewhere like a park, or in clothing store I don't feel offended, but if I'm eating I'd rather not see that. Get up and move? Why would I?

And I never got why it's illegal to ask a mother to cover herself in certain situations. If I'm a paying customer I should have to feel uncomfortable?

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I am a woman and a mom...I personally do think breastfeeding is disgusting and I wouldn't do it at all myself except I cannot afford formula...Why?

Due to the sexualization of breasts in this country, I feel it is somehow WRONG to do this. I know - they were made for this purpose, but purposes change within a society so dominated by the idea of breasts as sexual lightening rods. The idea of my daughter sucking on them makes me physically ill.

Yeah - and I don't ever do it in front of anyone...I can't stand watching it myself and wouldn't make others watch either.

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When I have kids God willing I will breats feed. I'm 19 and have already decided on that for the future.
I don't care if a person is a customer my baby is a hugery child incapable of feeding it's self. They're more important then you buying a shirt. Sorry just my oppinion.
If a mother keeps switching from breast to bottle the baby will get nipple confusion. A mother breast feeding shouldn't have to deal with it just for the sake of you comfort.
No bottle feeding won't harm the baby, but obviously scientist have done studyies on bottle feed and breastfeed babies and we're shown to be smarter or equal to that of a bottle feed babies. But in the long run when it comes to health (and mother) of breastfeed babies they'll reap those extra health benifits.
To the person who said why have more when you can adopt: Adopting one child is usually ranges from $5,000 to $50,000 dollars. How many people do you know have that much money laying around? People should adopt only if theyb want to. Children are getting adopted everyday.
I want to adopt and have a child. And other people want a biological child.
The most I'll do to take make people comfortable when i do chose to breastfeed is use a blanket. If it still makes you uncomfortable sorry oh well, my baby comes before all that.

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Also I find nothing wrong with mothers who choose not to breast feed. It's a personal choice. But no one needs to judge either groups.

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Also I find nothing wrong with mothers who choose not to breast feed. It's a personal choice. But no one needs to judge either groups.

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Hello proud breast feeding mommys I would like to say fuck the nasty anti breast feedrs let there kids get sick constanly off of powder and water sounds pretty yummy right ha not even close formula is gross and smellsgross and until fat girls quit wearing to small of clothes strippers don't exsit and porn is banned breast feeding won't stop I would just stop even fighting it you people can't change a thing about it.you all wonder what happens to missing kids its all theses sick fucks with demented minds is what happens its natural not made from a factory face it ur all talking to a brick wall

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Im currently expecting and i know breastfeeding is perfectly natural and good for the baby but exposin yourself in public is just not accepted on the western side of the world. No one wants to see a couple havin sex in public, no one wants to see you urinate in public and these things are natural but no one wants to see it. Unfortunately breastfeeding falls in that category becuz of the exposure of a sexual organ. I dont think the baby cares if you cover him or her up with a light blanket while they eat. I honestly think something is mentally wrong wit moms that want to be exposed like that while breastfeeding. You should want to cover your breasts up. I am definitely goin to use the pump becuz im not goin to embarrass myself and offend people by breastfeeding in public. it just aint that big of deal to respect others.

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I am an expecting mother and I will breastfeed. It is what is best for my child and I want to be the best mother I can be. Those who find breastfeeding gross and unnatural obviously have a preconception about breasts as a sexual object, which is a concept created by society. Sex has been made into something nature did not intend, and breasts have been made into something nature also did not intend. A mother's milk is the best food for an infant, and women would not be given breasts if this were not the case. Those who cannot breastfeed should be allowed to use formula if need be, but if there is no medical or REAL reason not to breastfeed, it seems so unfair and unnecessary for the child to be given the second best thing for nourishment. Why would any mother not want to have the healthiest baby they could have? There are always alternatives to actual nursing, such as pre pumping the milk and giving it to the baby although that may complicate milk supply and be much harder to do than just feeding the baby naturally. Sometimes society and technology does not entirely help humanity, and only offers crutches that take away from our natural abilities. Look at convenience foods and how they have affected our society's diet and rates of obesity. Sure, new foods and new technology is available, but does that mean we should use AND abuse those things? In my opinion, no..just because formula was invented, shouldn't mean it should be used above what BREASTS were created for. Whether you believe in humanity's creation religiously or through evolution, in no way would breasts have been created the way that they are viewed now, as a sexual item. All of our anatomy serves a purpose and a function...what is more obvious than that? Take away the sexual perversion, and why NOT breastfeed?

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Also, I find the attempt to conceal breastfeeding in public very respectable and reasonable, and should be easy enough to do for any mother. They have maternity nursing tops specifically for discreet breastfeeding almost to the point where no one would even notice, if they are given some distance as to not hear any noises. Some places have areas where one could choose to have a little privacy from the general public to breastfeed discreetly. I myself would not just pull out my bare breast and breastfeed in a crowded public area, but as long as it is legal and people stop with their sexual conceptions about breasts, it shouldn't be anything too big of a deal that they can't just accept and ignore it. Every woman is different and feels a different level of modesty about their body. Some women don't feel any problem with their chest exposed as long as they are feeding their baby. That to me makes sense because they don't see it as a rude or inappropriate showing of skin. Others disagree and will be offended, but can they not see where the mother is coming from? I think the offensive feelings coming from the breast are still sexually related, when breastfeeding is not a sexual act.

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Have you ever wondered why so many people are suffering from cancer and other diseases? You'd be surprised as to how much it is linked to being formula fed. especially in the western world ( which really is only the united states and Europe but Europeans are smarter than American and BF is nothing out of the norm.) That being said the U.S has the worst education system. If you go to any other country and 3rd world country diseases that attack American rarely attack their citizens why? because their population is mostly breast fed. The united states only cares about money and exploiting people. Now all you ladies out there who FF when your children get sick or cry nonstop blame it on the formula. formula fed babies cry more than BF babies because the formula is to hard to digest. whats so natural about feeding your baby chemically and artificially cow milk? Nothing. for the love of your children do whats best for them not for you if you cant sacrifice your female breast but can stick a dick up your ass and mouth and think that a man sucking on your breast is normal but a baby disgusting then you are not worthy of reproducing. why do you all people think America is disgustingly obese? because we are fed fake food that is processed chemically and artificially by corporation that only care about taking your money. Wake the fuck up people!

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I am a mother of three who breastfed all her children. These "ew, gross" comments are meaningless. Most US states provide legal protection for bf moms and any business or public place which seeks to restrict access will be socially sanctioned. So if you want to harass a bfing mom, you might find yourself in legal hot water. Let's move on from that whine-fest. We won that battle.

I'm directing my attention to those who think a mother has to plan her entire day around a breastfeeding schedule. This is impossible. Consider the basic errands an adult has to do in the course of a day. Groceries, banking, dog walking, getting oil changes, etc. Now, consider this fact: sometimes a baby will go through a growth spurt. The baby will nurse constantly. At some points I would be nursing a child for hours. Was I to stop my day, ignore all my other responsibilities to my family, because you don't feel comfortable hearing my baby make grunting noises or something? Sorry, you'll have to get over it. Maybe even get a life and quit poking your nose into mine.

I have had to pump in order to provide milk for my baby while I worked. This is no small effort. It takes loads of time. If you're doing this at home for an outing, you will find yourself trying to hold off nursing your baby in order to have milk for pumping. Not a smart move. The baby will be incredibly fussy. Try taking a cranky baby to the bank and see how that works out for you. I would suggest just feeding the baby as per usual. Use a sling and nurse when they get hungry again. I can't tell you how many times I was nursing - hands free - at the grocery store while managing my other children. No one even knew because the sling went over my shoulder. If someone did happen to see a little cleavage it was certainly far, far less than anything a girl in some low cut number was sporting. 

There are practicalities involved here. People have errands. People have lives. No one can hole themselves up for a year just to accommodate adults who should be minding their own business. 

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What can be more natural than breastfeeding your child? As long as it is handled in a discreet fashion, what is the problem? I honestly cannot understand it. Have we sexualized women's breasts so much in this country that we consider it "gross" for the breasts to do what they were intended? We need to support nursing mothers, not act like they are criminals. It's sad how our society is so mixed-up on this issue.

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i loved this post so much, thank you!

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